It is not your job to show someone a better way; it is your job to work on growing as a person.3.
Avoid "sextimacy." As I describe in is a cycle of working to achieve emotional intimacy through hastened sex.
Excessively asking for their opinion, reassurance, or guidance, or allowing them to control your life means you are not living for yourself.
And if you allow your parents to continually do the heavy lifting for you, then you will not be a whole person when the right match presents itself.
Give yourself time to get to know someone before jumping in the sack. Edward Lauman's research found that 85 percent of couples had known each other at least 30 days before having sex and 45 percent waited at least a year. Check out their "fit." How are they around your family and friends?
With such a vague goal of "working on myself," enlightenment eludes and isolation compounds the misery.
Work on yourself through developing greater emotional and sexual self-awareness.
As an adult, if you continue to allow your parents to meet all of your emotional needs then you siphon off some of the energy that needs to go into your romantic attachments.
As much as possible, little by little, work to be independent of your parents.