It's advisable even—or at least I've advised monogamous couples who want to keep things hot to visit those kinds of spaces.
Her orgasm is a physiological response; her pleasure is a combo of psychological responses and physiological responses.) If oral is pleasurable for her when she can allow you to go down on her, figure out what was different about those times. (Please note: Not asking isn't an option for new partners or new moves.) If you can figure out what worked and why—freshly showered, mildly buzzed, no questions asked—you won't have to stick your head in the toilet to prove a point.Since her pussy is not yet fully aroused and wet, we use lube and I climax long before she does. Loves Inhibited Carnal Killjoy You could go with a grand, romantic, and slightly demented gesture, LICK: clean the toilet and then stick your head in it to make a point about cleanliness making all the difference—and since the vagina is a self-cleaning organ and your girlfriend showers (so her labia, clit, taint, and butt are clean), you should be able to stick your nose down there.She feels pleasure and moans, but she really does not value her own orgasm. I wish I could help her overcome her body issues—but when I "use my words," she feels pressured and can't relax. Or you could use your words—but don't use them when you're about to have sex, LICK.But her higher brain functions get in the way, as she has internalized our culture's body shaming.She has likened me "sticking my nose down there" to "sticking my head in the toilet." Whenever I sexy-talk about licking her, she reacts with a mood killing "eww." But she says she would enjoy it if she could let me. When we have sex, she cuts foreplay short and gets straight to penetration.